Being chosen as the maid of honour is just that—an honour—but it doesn’t come without its own responsibilities. You have a lot of work to do, but you’re not alone. If you’ve been bestowed with this generous title, here’s what you can expect.
1. Host the Bridal Shower
The bridal shower is often planned by the maid of honour, and if you’re lucky, you may be able to co host it with another bridesmaid or relative. You’ll have to set the date, order food, plan the theme, plan games, and more. Be prepared to take this responsibility on, and don’t be afraid to ask the other bridesmaids for help.
2. Plan the Bachelorette
The bridal pre-parties don’t stop. You’ll be in charge when working with the other bridesmaids to plan a fun bachelorette the bride won’t forget. Whether it’s a trip near or far, keep the bride’s style in mind during the planning to come up with an event that’s exciting and adventurous for all. It only happens once, and you want to ensure the bride-to-be has an amazing time.
3. Lend an Ear
You’re both the cheerleader and the shoulder to lean on. Whether the bride needs a second opinion on the menu or simply needs to vent, she expects you to be there to listen and guide her as needed. Planning a wedding is stressful for the bride and knowing you’re there for her will help ease the burden. Even if the bride is a Type A personality who likes to do everything herself, she’ll appreciate knowing that you’re there when she needs you.
4. Keep the Bridesmaids in Line
Whether she has three bridesmaids or ten, it’s up to you to keep everyone together. You’ll be their first point of contact in order to keep them from overwhelming the bride so she can focus on the bigger parts of the day. When it comes to the wedding day, you’ll be the one making sure the bridesmaids know where they need to be during the ceremony.
The best way to communicate: Start a messaging thread or group chat on social media where everyone can speak in one conversation and avoid any chance of misinformation.
5. Provide DIY Assistance
From crafting creative wedding signs to fixing a last-minute tear, be prepared for anything. If the bride is looking to create pieces instead of buying all the decorations, get ready to channel your inner Martha Stewart. From hand-lettering envelopes to creating centerpieces, be prepared to help out and make this as stress-free as possible.
6. Be the Dress Guru
The bride will bring a few key people with her before she says yes to the dress. Offer your opinion as necessary, help ease the stress of finding the perfect gown, and be supportive during this important shopping trip. You’ll likely be asked to tag along to fittings as well.
In addition to finding her dress, she may ask for help finding the bridesmaids’ dresses. Consider yourself a style guru to find dresses both the bride and bridesmaids will shine in.
7. Say a Few Words
Being the maid of honour is a big honour. The bride sees something in you, values your relationship, and holds you in high regard. You’ll be on the docket to give a short speech. Don’t stress over what to say. You can choose funny, endearing, or sweet words—something that speaks to your friendship and support for the new couple. Anything that comes from the heart is sure to be a hit.
